DAR chapter met Oct. 3

    The Toccoa chapter of the Daughters of American Revolution (DAR) met Thursday, Oct. 3, at 5 p.m. at Quincy’s.
    The call to order, welcome and patriotic exercises were conducted by Regent Paige Dooley.
    Chaplain Linda Hogsed gave grace and members ordered lunch.
    Guest speaker was Dr. Jeremy McClain, assistant director of student support services and behavioral  specialist for Stephens County Schools.   
    He also pastors the congregation  at Macedonia United Methodist Church in Cleveland. McClain is a graduate of Lee University, Piedmont College and Georgia Southern University.      He was awarded the Bryan Deever Memorial Scholarship for original research incorporating the work of Dr. Bryan Deever.
    He has been published in Georgia Magazine and the International Journal of Power and Education and presented original research at the American Educational Research Association,  the Curriculum and Pedagogy Conference,  and the Curriculum Studies Summer Collaborative.
    He and his wife Jenny reside in Toccoa and have four children.
    McClain discussed the universal idea for learning and educational reform and creating opportunities for access for everyone to be included.  These steps get everyone together and create a world that we all want to live in.
    The Indian Minute - After the passage of the 1924 Citizenship Bill, it still took over 40 years for all 50 states to allow Native Americans to vote.  
    For example,  Maine was one of the last states to comply with the Indian Citizenship Act, even though it had granted taxpaying Native Americans the right to vote in its original 1819 state constitution.
    Conservation Moment –  Check your house vents to make sure they are in working order and close them prior to cooler weather.
    Margo Taylor, recording secretary, read minutes to the previous meeting.
    Kathleen Townsend,  treasurer, gave the treasury report.
    Regent Dooley gave the registrar's report in the absence of Peggy Saumn.
    The chapter also discussed volunteer gift bags for Veterns Day.
    Clothing and money donations were collected for Tamassee DAR School.
    Women's Issue - October  Cause:  We wear  PURPLE  in October to signify our solidarity with all those protesting Domestic Violence.  
    Domestic Violence  takes many forms.  As well as the obvious use of physical violence,  there is psychological violence, financial violence,  financial isolation, monitoring of friendships,  computer monitoring, and on it goes, all designed to isolate and make dependent the violated individual.
    A little realized fact is that computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear.  This is important for anyone who is being abused to know.  
    Definition - Domestic violence (also called intimate partner violence,  domestic abuse or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.  
     Domestic violence does not discriminate.   Anyone of any race, age, sexual  orientation,  religion  or gender can be a victim  - or perpetrator- of domestic  violence.   
    It can happen to people who are married, living together or who are dating.  It affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and educational levels.  Domestic violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want.
    Some signs of an abusive relationship include a partner who:
    • Tells you that you can never do anything right.
    • Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away.
    • Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members.
    • Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs.
    • Controls every penny spent in the household.
    • Takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses.
    • Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you.
    • Controls who you see, where you go or what you do.
    • Prevents you from making your own decisions.
    • Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children.
    • Prevents you from working or attending school.
    • Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill your pets.
    • Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons.
    • Pressures you to have sex when you don't want to or for things sexually you are not comfortable with.
    • Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol.
    Suzanne McDonald served as hostess and decorated the tables with fall decorations and chocolates.